8 Sex Toy Tips for Beginners

8 Sex Toy Tips for Beginners

When you’re new to using sex toys, it’s common to feel both excited and nervous at the same time. It’s not always an easy decision to spend money on your sexual pleasure when your hand can get the job done for you. To get the most out of your new toy and to have the best chance of orgasmic success, here are a few tips to keep in mind.

Masturbate First

Masturbate FirstChoosing a sex toy based on what other people like rarely works out. The use of sex toys is very personal because everyone enjoys and needs different kinds of stimulation. Before you buy a sex toy, masturbate first. Figure out what you enjoy most and then look for a sex toy that gives it to you.

Start with the Basics

Vibrators with 25 settings can be fun. Cock rings that hit your perineum might give you a mind-blowing orgasm. But if you’ve never used this kind of sex toy, they can also be intimidating. For your first sex toy, start with something basic. You’ll have a better chance of figuring out what you like about that kind of toy instead of getting frustrated because you’re not sure how it’s supposed to work.

Know the Material

Sex toys aren’t regulated by any government which means they can be made of almost anything and labels can say “body safe” when they’re really not. It’s important to understand a little bit about sex toy materials when you shop. Silicone, metal, and glass are the best materials because they can be easily cleaned and sterilized. Jelly, rubber, TPR/TPE, silagel, and other soft materials are very porous. They feel realistic but they can never be fully cleaned, either.

Have a Cleaning Plan

Have a Cleaning PlanAll sex toys need to be cleaned between use. The simplest method is to use soap and water. If you’re in a hurry, toy cleansers and wipes are good options, too. If you want a realistic dildo or pocket pussy, consider using a condom when you play to keep the porous material as clean as possible. If you do that, soap and water will be enough to clean it later. Make sure to let your sex toy dry completely before storing it away.

Read the Instructions

Don’t guess about whether your vibrator is waterproof or only splashproof. And don’t let yourself get frustrated about what all the buttons do or how to put that strapon harness together. Always read the instructions for any new sex toy you buy. Higher quality toys will come with information while cheaper toys might not. When in doubt, search online for a review — you can often find out how to use it if no instructions are included in the package.

Play with the Settings

If your new sex toy has buttons, a battery, and power, play with the settings and buttons before you use it on yourself. Hold it in your hand and get an idea for what the sensations will feel like before you put it against the most sensitive part of your body. Try the buttons to figure out which button does what and how best to press them. This will save some annoyance when you’re ready to masturbate later.

Try Different Ways to Play

Try Different Ways to PlayJust because a sex toy says it’s for one kind of play — like a g-spot vibrator — doesn’t mean it can’t be used in multiple ways. Once you figure out how your new toy works and what feels good, let yourself experiment. Small dildos can be great for anal stimulation. Vibrators that work inside your body might feel great on the outside. Nipple stimulation is an option for any toy that buzzes. Don’t box yourself into a single way to use a sex toy.

Don’t Blame Yourself If You Don’t Like Your Sex Toy

Despite all the research, masturbation, and reviews, you might buy a sex toy that you hate. It doesn’t feel good at all, or it just doesn’t do much for you. You’re not using it wrong or “broken.” It just means this isn’t the right sex toy for you. That’s completely normal and happens all the time. Learn from the experience and use that information to help you choose a new sex toy that you like better.


Everyone is a sex toy newbie at some point. Even your friend who talks about their sex toy collection and why they don’t need their hand anymore. With a little information and help, you can have a good experience with your first sex toy — and skip some of the hard lessons many of us have to learn the first time we decide to use something other than our hand. Once you figure out what works for you, it’ll be easier to shop for new sex toys and find exactly what you want.

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