What is a Sex Machine?
You might have heard of sex machines. If you’ve visited your local adult store or browsed an erotic store online, you might even have seen some for sale. But what exactly is a sex machine, who are they for, and how do you use one?
Let’s find out!
First, Some Definitions
Wikipedia describes a sex machine as “a mechanical device used to simulate human sexual intercourse or other sexual activity.” That’s a pretty dry definition, but it’s also accurate. In a nutshell, a sex machine is designed to help you feel like you’re having sex with a partner… only no partner is required!
What Types of Sex Machines Are There?
Sex machines come in lots of different types. There are styles to suit different bodies, sexual desires, and budgets. Here are a few of the common types:
- Free-standing thrusting sex machines, such as the Fetish Fantasy Series Bigger Bang and the Dicktator Extreme Sex Machine.
- Couples’ sex machines, such as the Fetish Fantasy Series Couples’ Sex Machine, which comes with a stroker for him at one end and a dildo for her at the other.
- Handheld sex machines such as the Lovebotz Thrust Bot
- Ride-on toys like the Cowgirl, which can be used for both internal and external pleasure (together or separately.)
Some sex machines can also be used with different attachments. For example, you can use different dildos with thrusting sex machines, allowing you to enjoy different shapes and sizes. You can also use some machines with attachments for penis play or anal pleasure.
Some sex machines are highly adjustable and allow you to change the speed, height, depth of penetration, and so on. In general, the more customizable the machine, the more expensive it will be.
Who Are Sex Machines For?
All kinds of different people use sex machines. They can be amazing for single people who want to experience something that feels like partnered sex without needing to find a partner. But they can just as easily be used by those in relationships!
Most people in relationships still masturbate, so if you want to keep enjoying a sex machine as well as sex with your partner, then you absolutely can do that. You can also have some amazing kinky fun using one with your partner.
For example, perhaps you have a fantasy about threesomes or group sex, but you can’t act on it for real (due to relationship boundaries, opportunity, the ongoing pandemic, STI concerns, or any other myriad of factors). Using a sex machine can help you to make that fantasy feel a bit more real, without any of the risks associated with bringing another partner into your bedroom.
Sex machines can also work well if you and your partner aren’t able to have certain types of sex for some reason, such as distance, erectile dysfunction, illness or injury. Using a machine together can scratch that itch and allow you to still enjoy a fulfilling sexual connection. Visiting an adult store to pick one out together can be a sexy and intimate experience in itself.
People of all genders and sexualities—straight, gay, bi, cis, trans—can use sex machines. If you’re curious, go for it. There’s bound to be the perfect machine out there for you.
Are Sex Machines Safe?
As long as you follow the instructions and pay attention to your body, yes. Don’t try to modify your machine or ignore any safety instructions, as this can lead to injury (or damage to the machine).
Always start slowly. You can experiment to see what feels good and ramp up the intensity as you go. Oh, and use plenty of lube, especially if you’re doing penetrative play. If something hurts, always stop and adjust. Pain is your body’s way of telling you something is wrong.
How Do I Choose My First Sex Machine?
Choosing a sex machine can feel daunting. You’re paying a lot of money, so you want to make sure you get the right toy for you! Ask yourself these questions before you choose one:
- What is your budget?
- Will you use the toy alone, with a partner, or both?
- How much storage space do you have?
- Would you prefer a handheld or free-standing toy?
- What type of stimulation are you looking for? (Internal or external? Vaginal or penile or anal? Thrusting or vibrating? And so on.)
You can visit your local adult store, or browse one online, to see what sorts of machines are available. Pay attention to what you gravitate towards and what looks like the most fun.