How to Make Kinky Spankings Even Better
Even if spankings are common in your sex life and your relationships, there are always ways to make it better, sexier more satisfying, and yes, even kinkier. Whether you’re experimenting with spankings for the first time or it’s a big part of your kinky life, there are always more things to try and experience.
Check out our tips for making your kinky spankings better than ever — with kinky sex toys and without.
Talk to Your Partner
Anytime you want to do anything with a partner, communication is the first step, and the best option. You can’t decide for yourself what your partner wants, and you might not always read their “signals” correctly. Learning how to talk about what you like and what you don’t like will improve every aspect of your sexual life — from spankings to orgasms to experimenting with pleasure.
Want to make your spanking experience better? Talk to your partner. Tell them what you enjoy and what you don’t. Listen to what they have to say. Between the two of you, figure out what you want to try together and what you don’t want to do. Your spanking experiences will keep getting better over time.
Add Role Play
Some people include spanking during sex as just another activity. Others use it as part of a power exchange in Dominance and submission. No matter where you fall in those categories, you can always add a new element of role play to make a spanking more exciting.
- Teacher and student
- Bad boys and girls getting “punished”
- Doctor and nurse
- Guard and prisoner
Whatever your imagination can come up with, you should try (as long as your partner consents). As long as it ends in the spanking you both want, you both win the game.
Change Positions
The position of a person’s body during a spanking makes a big difference in how each smack feels. Leaning over the bed is different than lying across a partner’s lap. Standing up feels different than bending over. This is because of where the muscle in the butt sits in those positions. Bent over, the glute muscle is closer to the surface. Standing up, you’re hitting primarily fat.
Finding the position you enjoy for a spanking is key to having a good experience. But if you’re up for experimenting with sensation, pleasure, and pain, switch positions.
- On your knees on the bed
- Standing, bent over the bed, chair, or other furniture
- Standing, bent all the way over
- Standing up straight
- Lying across a partner’s lap
- Kneeling across a partner’s lap (knees and hands on each side of their legs)
Add Kinky Sex Toys
Any sex toy can be a kinky sex toy, depending on how you use it, but in a spanking, you have more options than you realize.
- Instead of a bare-handed spanking, try a paddle, crop, whip, or cane. Practice on a pillow or the bed before hitting a person with it.
- Add a blindfold or ball gag for added control during the spanking.
- Use vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, and other sex toys to add sensation or play with orgasm control during the spanking.
- Combine the spanking with bondage using bondage tape or under-the-bed restraints to hold your partner in place and exert more control.
You’re only limited by your imagination and the things you and your partner want to try. Never do anything a partner doesn’t consent to, and always say something if you’re not comfortable with any kinky activity. Any sex toy can be kinky and nearly any toy can be added to a spanking to make it even better.
Consider Safety
If you really want to have a better spanking — as the spanker or the spankee — never forget the importance of safety. Part of that is in the first step — communication and consent. But it goes beyond talking about what you want and don’t want. Consider setting up a safeword (a word that doesn’t fit the moment and means everything stops). It can be literally any word, as long as you both can remember it.
If you don’t have a safeword, no will always mean no. But if you’re spanking your partner, don’t rely on a safeword or “no” — check in with them. Ask questions to make sure they want you to keep going or if you need to ease up. As the person being spanked, you have to be honest with your partner. Saying you need more or less of a spanking doesn’t ruin the moment. But getting physically or emotionally hurt because the spanking was more than you could handle DOES.
Conclusion
From a swat on the butt during sex to a bare-handed over-the-knee spanking during role play, kinky spankings can be whatever you want them to be. Keep it simple or bring out ALL the sex toys. Whatever works for both you and your partner is all that matters. When you’re ready to buy a new sex toy for your next kinky moment, Caliente Adult Superstore has what you need.
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