How to Pick the Right Dildo for Strap-on Sex
There are plenty of reasons to use a strap-on for sex with your partner. No matter how you’re getting busy together, the thing that makes all the difference is finding the right dildo for the pleasure you want to have.
If you’re considering making strap-on sex a part of your fun in the bedroom, here’s how to choose the perfect dildo.
Where Will the Dildo Be Used?
We don’t care if you’re boning in the bedroom or the shower. This is about which body part your dildo will be used on. Are you getting a dildo for vaginal or anal penetration? This can make a big difference in the size, shape, and style of dildo you choose. Newbies to anal sex will likely need something smaller and smoother. Partners who want vaginal penetration will need to know their body well enough to gauge what size and shape work best for them. But if you don’t know yet, no worries. Half the fun is in finding out what you enjoy.
Hollow or Solid Dildo?
Strap-on sex happens for a variety of reasons. People without penises want to penetrate their partner — vaginally or anally. Basic, solid dildos are the best option for this kind of penetrative sex. People with penises may have a micro penis or health issue that impacts their erections. Hollow dildos are great for these situations. You’re “connected” to the dildo because it’s sitting over your own body which should make penetration and thrusting easier and more natural.
Is Your Harness Compatible?
If your partner already has a strap-on harness, the dildo you choose needs to be compatible. Most harnesses include interchangeable rings to swap out dildos of different sizes. Ideally, the dildo (if not hollow) will have a flat base so it sits comfortably against the pelvis. If you’re buying both a harness and a dildo, you can buy strap-on kits that include both so you know they fit together with no problem.
What Material is the Dildo?
Softer, porous materials feel more realistic, but they also break down faster and can’t be completely sterilized. Silicone (non-porous) dildos come in all shapes and sizes, just like rubber or jelly counterparts, but they last longer, and they’re safer to use. They’re also soft like the more realistic dildos so you don’t have to sacrifice the sensation, either.
You’ll pay more for a better material, but it will last longer and be safer to use. This is extremely important if you’re going to share your dildo with each other for different kinds of play.
What Size Do You Want?
When choosing the right dildo for you, solo or during strap-on sex, size really does matter. Penetration beginners, like anal newbies, should likely stick with something small at first. But even experienced dildo users have a preference on size. It should be comfortable in your body and something you want to use again and again — big or small. Pick what you like or what looks interesting. If it’s still a little too big, you may be able to work up to that size over time.
Do You Need Lube?
In general, the answer is yes. But it’s especially true for anal strap-on sex, pegging or otherwise, and anyone new to penetration. You also need it if you’re trying a larger dildo size than usual. But even if none of those things are true, lube is always a good idea. Vaginas don’t always get as wet as you expect them to, and penetration shouldn’t have to hurt. Add the right kind of lube, and you can have as much strap-on sex as you want.
Porous materials (jelly, rubber, TPR/TPE) need water-based lube. High-quality silicone, metal, and glass can use silicone-based lube. Apply more than you think you need and re-apply while you play.
Conclusion
The right dildo can make your strap-on sex experience amazing…but the wrong dildo can make it something you never want to repeat. A dildo might be a “basic” sex toy, but it’s anything but basic once you try to find what feels best to you or your partner. Spend some time comparing styles, sizes, and materials to find what you want for the sex you crave.
You may find that, over time, you buy a variety of styles and sizes to suit whatever you want to feel at any given moment. But never think any dildo is just as good as the next. Take the time to pick the best one for you.
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