6 Things You Need to Know About Pegging
Is pegging on your list of things you’re dying to try? Have you talked to your partner about it? Maybe you’ve heard pegging is amazing but it makes you really nervous. From buying the right dildo to making sure it doesn’t hurt, there are plenty of things you need to know about this popular form of strap-on sex.
What is Pegging?
In case you’re new to the idea of pegging, let’s define it. The term “pegging” is common among heterosexual partners who engage in strap-on sex. Specifically, the female partner wears a strap-on harness and anally penetrates her male partner with a dildo. While this kind of sex is not exclusive to heterosexual couples, the term is most often used in heterosexual relationships.
Pegging is About Pleasure
A lot of guys worry that if they let their partner peg them, it means they’re gay. Your sexuality is about who you’re attracted to — not which body parts or objects you want stuck in your body. Pegging is all about pleasure. The rectum and anus are filled with nerve endings that, for many people, feel really good when stimulated. The butt is as gender neutral as it gets. Enjoying being fingered or fucked back there doesn’t mean anything about your sexuality. It’s just another form of pleasure to enjoy.
Dildo Size Matters…a Lot
If you’re new to the idea of pegging, the worst thing you can do is buy the biggest dildo you see and ask your partner to shove it up your butt. You’re asking for a negative experience and pain. The size of the dildo you use during strap-on sex correlates to your anal experience so far. Never had anything up your butt? Start with a finger before you try a dildo. Like a finger or a small anal probe? Move up to a slender dildo. As you get comfortable with a certain size, consider trying something larger. Some people stick with small toys and others like to see how much they can take — do what makes you feel good.
Lube is Required
When you try anything anal, pegging or just a fingertip, lube becomes your best friend. Since the butt doesn’t naturally produce lubricant (like penises and vaginas often do), you gotta get the slippery stuff from somewhere. Spit isn’t a good option, no matter what porn tries to tell you. You’re going to need to buy lube and it has to work well with your dildo. Glass, metal, and some silicone dildos can handle silicone lube which is thicker and lasts longer. All other materials, including many silicone dildos, need water-based lube. You’ll need to reapply as you go along, but it cleans up easy and feels really good.
Take Your Time
The butt is a natural exit, not an entrance, which means it’s not used to letting things like a dildo in. But the myth that anal is always painful or has to hurt is just that…a myth. If you take your time, start with something small, and use plenty of lube, it shouldn’t hurt. Taking your time means exploring pegging over days and weeks, not just hours. To help relax your body, masturbate while your partner takes care of the backdoor. Stroke your penis. Play with your balls. Use a vibrator if it feels good. Arousal helps you unclench making pegging more comfortable. Once in, don’t immediately shift to a thrusting motion. Your partner should stay still and let you grow used to the sensation before moving in and out.
Don’t Skimp on the Harness
As important as the dildo is to your butt, that’s how important the harness is for your partner. If it chafes, fits badly, or is uncomfortable in anyway, they’re not going to have a good experience. They might even need to stop just when it gets good for you. So while you’re learning and exploring, focus on finding the right strap-on harness for them. There are several different styles for both plus and non-plus size people. If your partner is experienced at pegging, they might want to consider a strapless strap-on which eliminates the harness completely.
Conclusion
A lot of guys fantasize about pegging…a LOT. So if you’re thinking about it, you’re definitely not alone. The first step is to talk to your partner about it and find out what they think. If they’re willing, then you can start exploring together. Be patient with each other. The goal is to have a good time and feel amazing. Rushing into it makes that much harder to do. Buy the right dildo and harness, go slow, and enjoy the experience with your partner. That’s how you have a pegging experience that makes you want more.
