5 Things You Can Do to Improve Your Sex Life
Want a better sex life? Whether you’re in a relationship or single, you don’t have to be doomed to boring, lackluster sex. There are ways to make it better for yourself.
Here at Caliente Adult, we’re here to help. Try out these tips for a better sex life.
Masturbate More Often
If you never masturbate, start. If you infrequently masturbate, do it more often. We have a different sexual experience with ourselves than we do with a partner, but it’s all part of our sex life. Masturbating gives us information about what we like (and don’t like) that we might not get with a partner. Especially if we think more about what our partner wants and enjoys during sex.
This is your chance to get in touch with yourself (pun intended). Not only will you feel good sexually, but you may also learn a few things about what you like. This can include anything from the type and intensity of stimulation to where exactly on your body you need to be touched to get off.
Try a Sex Toy
We wouldn’t be us if we didn’t suggest this one. Not every sex toy works the same for everyone but most people benefit from trying a new toy. Before you drop a lot of cash, start with our first tip — masturbate more often. You’ll have a better idea of what kind of stimulation you like which will help narrow down your sex toy search.
For most people, it’s better to start your sex toy experience for the first time by yourself, especially if you’ve never used one before. But if you and your partner are both really into the idea, make your first time with a sex toy something you do together. It’s not the worst idea in the world, either. You can help each other out, have something to laugh about when things get weird (and it will), and bond over the experience. Having a funny sex toy fail together can make other new sexual experiences together seem a little less stressful.
Talk to Your Partner
Sometimes the sex we want to have with a partner needs improvement for a single reason: we’re not getting what we need from them. Maybe they skip foreplay completely. Maybe they think sex should only happen in a single position done in the same way every time. And maybe there are things you want to try with your partner but haven’t said anything about.
When improving your sex life means “making the sex you have with a partner better” the first and most important step is communication. You have to talk about it with them. That doesn’t mean you have to be cruel. Saying, “You absolutely suck in bed and I’ve been faking orgasms for months” isn’t going to make it easy for them to talk or listen. But admitting that there are things you want to try or things you need from your partner may work out better than you realize. Frankly, the only way to have the sex you want to have with a partner is to talk about it.
Try Out a Fantasy
Got a sexual fantasy that plays in your mind from time to time? Is there something you keep Googling or watching porn about that you’d really like to try? One way to improve your sex life is to have new experiences. Much like trying a new sex toy, even if it doesn’t work out perfectly, the moment can teach you something new and help you bond with a partner.
Not every fantasy is meant to happen. Having sex with Chris Hemsworth probably can’t come true. But if the idea of Thor gets you going, find out if your partner will play the character for you. Consider role-playing the “playing pretend” game of adulthood. You don’t need sexy costumes, but they sometimes help. You also don’t need sophisticated dialogue, but a little dirty talk keeps things going.
Go to a Sex Shop
You can go to a sex toy store with or without a partner, and you can go to browse or with the intention of buying something. The point isn’t to buy a very specific product that will ta-da magically fix your sex life. Instead, go with the desire to see what’s out there and figure out if anything piques your interest.
Shopping at an adult store with a partner can help start a conversation about your sexual fantasies. It can lead to exploring new sexual activities you didn’t even know existed. Going alone allows you to think about what kind of sex toy you might want to try. It might even lead you to wear lingerie or dress up in new ways — for yourself or for a potential partner.
Making a better sex life for yourself requires a sense of curiosity and adventure because you have to be willing to try new things. But it’s not as scary or difficult as you might imagine. And, as you start to make sex better for yourself, you get all the benefits of pleasure and orgasms, too.