Sex can be defined in any way you want — penis-in-vagina (PIV) sex, fingering, oral sex, anal sex, masturbation — literally any way. When you’re having sex with a partner all that ever matters is that you both enjoy yourself. If you’re looking for a new way to have a good time, the right sex toy can heat things up.
Here are several sex toys that you can bring into the bedroom with you and your partner.
Vibrators come in all shapes, sizes, and forms. Some are external for clitoral stimulation, while others are shaped like dildos. And of course, vibrating cock rings are a great way to enjoy extra stimulation during penetrative sex. The vibrator that’s right for you is one that feels good and can hit the spot you need while you’re getting it on with your partner. And if you’re taking your sexy fun out of the bedroom and into other places — like the bathtub or shower — grab a vibrator that works well in that location as well as with your body.
Not all vibrators are remote-controlled, but all remote-controlled toys vibrator or pulsate in some way. A fun way to play with sex toys together is to hand the control to your partner and let them play with the buttons. You can do this in public or before you get naked as a kind of foreplay or build-up to what will happen later. You can also experiment with pleasure while you’re already naked and find new vibrations and settings that make you feel good.
Any cock ring can make your sex life better — whether you’re masturbating or getting busy with a partner. Vibrating cock rings are the most popular option for couples, but basic cock rings will work, too, especially if you or your partner want to extend the time it takes to have an orgasm. For the vibrating option, you’ll need to make sure that the bullet vibrator lines up just right with your partner or that will feel kind of pointless. You can also look for an option that offers vibration stimulation for both of you — the perineum for him and the clitoris for her.
Strapons are great in a few situations — guys who want to be pegged (anal penetration) by their partner, and partners who want to penetrate or be penetrated but neither of you have a penis. The key to having a good time with a strapon is a comfortable harness for one partner and a comfortable dildo for the other. Start slowly if you’re new to penetration and make sure you have plenty of lube to make the experience more comfortable. Smaller dildos are best when you’re just starting out.
Butt plugs can be used in all kinds of ways. It’s a fun way to get a booty ready for bigger penetration later. Some people simply like how jeweled butt plugs look. And many people like how it feels to have it in — during sex or any other time. Adding it to partnered sex will definitely add new sensations and might be perfect if you’re looking to add a bit of kink to your life. Look for one with a tapered end for easy entry and a very wide base so there’s no change of it getting stuck up your butt. And always, always use plenty of lube.
You might think prostate massagers aren’t that much different from butt plugs, but they offer much more than that “full” feeling some people like in the back. These sex toys hit the prostate often called the p-spot, a highly erogenous zone for a lot of guys. You can use a vibrating version or a manual one, but using it during sex can be a big hit. Some people report multiple orgasms, and the right prostate massager will definitely add sensations to whatever kind of sex you’re having.
There’s no single sex toy that’s perfect for every couple. What makes one toy better than another has a lot to do with what you or your partner want to experience and feel — and the type of sex you want to have. Finding the toy that feels good to you both can be part of the fun, but don’t be afraid to suggest bringing a toy into the bedroom to your partner. You’re not replacing each other — you’re enhancing the sex you already have and making it even better.
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